Behavior With The Wives
LESSON # 275 FROM HOLY QUR’AN
Behavior With The Wives
BAQARAH – 2 (The Cow)
Verse – 231a of 286, Section – 29 (Part - 2)
When ye have divorced women, and they have reached their term, then retain them in kindness or release them in kindness. Retain them not with the object of hurting them in order that ye transgress (the limits). And he who doeth that hath wronged his soul.
Wa ‘izaa tallaqtumun-nisaaa-‘a fabalagna ‘ajalahunna fa-‘amsikuu-hunna bi-ma’-ruu-fin ‘aw sarrihuu-hunna bi-ma’-ruuf. Wa laa tumsikuuhunna ziraaral-lita’-taduu. Wa many-yaf-‘al zaalika faqad zalama nafsah.
‘izaa tallaqtum – (When you have divorced), here it signifies about that once or twice divorced which may be inclined, after which there is still chance of inclination.
‘ajalahunna – (their term), it aims that the period of their term is near to end, but has not yet ended. Otherwise meaning of ending of the term period will be that now there is no chance for inclination.
This rule has been mentioned in this verse that as and when a husband divorces his wife once or twice and he has not yet divorced at the third time, then he can incline before third divorce if he wants, and if he doesn’t wish to incline then he should divorce third time. Or if he remains silent then after the completion of term it will be considered automatically that he doesn’t want to incline and he has finished his relation intentionally with his wife. But it is compulsory that which path will be adopted by the husband out of these two manners, that should be according to the Rule and suitable as per the Divine’s Law of Religion. That is to say; if he wishes to retain his wife then he should return with respect and nobility, and if he wants to disconnect his relation then he should send her wife back from his home with honour and politeness. In short both the forms should be suitable in accord with law and compliments. It should not be so that he inclines to vex and tease his wife, and likewise put her intentionally under his ban.
Those people who violate the rights of women and take them again in marriage to trouble them, God Almighty stated about them that doing so they have wronged their souls; they damaged themselves at their own. It’s clear that doing so, their homes might not be remained populated. But these will ruin. They themselves also will remain never in peace and comfort. Their domestic lives will become the spring of distresses and troubles. They both will fail in fulfilling the responsibilities of their children. Therefore destruction and ruin will encamp at their homes. If this person divorces after some period too then any noble woman will never be ready to wed him. It is better for the husband that he should behave his wife with good manner, so that he may live also happily and his wife too.