Relation with Wife

SAYINGS OF THE MESSENGER

(SALLALLAHO-ALAIHE-WA-AALEHI-WASALLAM)

Family Life

Relation with Wife

142.       Sayyidina Maymoon from Sayyidina Ubayy(Radi-ALLAHO-An-hum)

       If anyone marries a woman agreeing to pay a dower, little or much, but not really intending to pay it to her then he has cheated her. If he dies afterwards without paying her the dower then he will face Allah on the day of Resurrection as an adulterer.    (Targheeb)

143.       Sayyidina Abu Hurayrah (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)    Among the believers, those who have a good character have perfected their belief. And the best among you are those who are good to their women.    (Tirmizi,Targheeb)

     

144.      Sayyidina Abu Hurayrah (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

        Let not a believing man hate his believing wife. If he does not like anything in her, he is sure to find something else adorable. (Muslim, Targheeb)

145      Sayyidina mu`awiyah bin Haydah (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

        A wife’s right over her husband is that he feeds her when he feeds himself, clothes her when he clothes himself; does not hit her on her face and does not speak to her rudely; and does not spend the night away from her (out of ranger) except within the same house. (Abu Dawood, Targheeb)

146.    Sayyidina ‘Amr bin al-Ahwas (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

       Listen! Follow my advice in treating women gently. This is because they stay with you restricted. You have no right over anything belonging to them except that they do not do anything shameful. In that case you leave them alone on their bed and beat them lightly so that they do not feel the pain. Then if they obey you do not oppress them. Remember, you have some rights over your wives, and your wives have some rights over you. It is your right over them that they do not defile your bed with those you do not like, and do not let such people as you do not like enter your house. Remember, they have a right over you that you treat them well in feeding and clothing them. (Ibn Majah, Tirmizi)

147.    Sayyidina Abu Hurayrah (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

        This is a dinar that you spend in the cause of Allah. That is a dinar that you again use to emancipate a slave. And, this is also a dinar that you give as Sadaqah to a needy person. This too is a dinar which you spend on your wife. Of these, you will fetch the highest reward on the dinar that you spend on your wife. (Muslim, Targheeb)

148.       Sayyidatina ‘Aisha (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ha)

       Does that man among you not feel ashamed that he beats his wife in the early part of the day as if he is beating his slave then in the last part of that very day he sleeps with her (having sexual intercourse)? Is he not ashamed of himself? (Abd bin Humayd, Kanz ul-‘Ummaal)

149.       Sayyidina Abu Umaamah (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

       The worst of men is he who is stingy in giving the rights of his household members.    (Kanz ul-‘Ummaal)

150.       Sayyidina Ilyas bin ‘Abdullah (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

       Many women make the rounds of the house of Muhammad (Peace and Blessings be upon Him). They complain (of being beating at the hands) of their husbands. Such people (who beat their wives) are not the best among you. (Abu Dawood, Ibn Majah, Mishkat)

151.       Sayyidatina Asma bint Abu Bakr (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ha)

       I do not like it that I should see anyone with swollen veins of his neck, standing over his wife and beating her.    (Kanz ul-‘Ummaal, Asd bin Humayd)

152.       Sayyidina Abu Hurayrah (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

       As for him who has two wives and does not do justice to them, he will be seen on the day of Resurrection with one side of his body leaning down.    (Tirmizi, Abu Dawood, Nasa’i)

Collected  from The Book “Sayings of The Prophet” (Peace Be Upon Him),  Written by Justice Mufti Muhammad Taqi Usmani &  Published by Darul Ishaat, Urdu Bazaar Karachi,  (collected by: Muhammad Sharif)